So working in the mall you run into all kinds of people. Sometimes this is wonderful, sometimes.......not so much. Yesterday while I was walking to get my tea I spotted someone I hadn't seen for a very long time. I did that thing where I pretend to be in deep concentration and that I haven't spotted them. Unfortunatley they didn't pick up on my subtle hint. The exchange went somthing like this:
them: "Dawn! Dawn! Is that you?
Me: "Oh hi person I barely know 'cause we only worked togther for maybe 6 months over 12 years ago, I almost didn't see you there (yes I saw you I tried to pretend I didn't).
them: "what happened to you?"
Me: "excuse me?" (knowing full well what they are talking about but not liking the tone of voice"
them: "well I mean (in a whispered tone) are you sick or something?"
Me: (are you kidding me?) " that would be or something, I'm not sick"
Them: "Oh good, you've just lost so much weight I thought maybe you were sick. How did you lose so much?"
Me: "I had weight loss surgery"
Them: "Oh (with a wrinkle up nose). Well I guess anyone can lose weight that way" You must have a ton of saggy skin?"
Me: (getting very flustered by this point) Ummmmm well yeah there is a bit of extra skin. But I feel good and I'm healthier so I guess that's the important part"
Them: "Yeah I guess. I would NEVER have surgery to lose weight. I would just have to buck up and do it on my own. Will power and excercise".
Me: (smiling really hard at this point so as not to say something equally as rude or well you know me....cry). "Well it was nice seeing you ,but I'm on a break and really have to get going"
Them: "Ok, well it was nice seeing you, maybe we can do coffee sometime?"
Me: "yeah sure (so not happening)"
Now why I'm telling you about this is simply because one of the issues that Brett and I talked about before I had the surgery was if I was going to be honest with people (casual friends/co-workers etc) about what I had done or would I skirt around the issue. We decided that we would be up front and honest. If this was something I was going to do then I should stand by my decision and not be embarrassed by choice. This seemed like an easy choice. Until you run across people like this. She doesn't really know me, she doesn't know what I've tried to do to lose weight in the past. She really knows nothing about me. I'm all for everyone having a right to an opinion, but I do NOT believe that someone has the right to be so rude about their opinion. Sometimes I'm embarrassed to say I had surgery, other times it doesn't bother me at all, even if I do get funny looks. But for some reason this one really bothered me. Maybe it's because I was purposely being rude and trying to pretend I didn't see her so karma came back and bit me in the ass. That'll teach me.
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